What not to do on a date

The possibilities of a relationship flourishing into something special can sometimes be damaged by not doing the right thing on a date.

Unless you are not interested in the person which we should then question our intention of meeting the person. Avoid bad dating practices and habits could rob you of any potential happiness you could have with your date.

Here are some tips on what not to do on a date:

Be a good conversationalist

A good conversation is two way communications. Do not dominate or bore your date about yourself and neither should you let the other party dominate the conversation throughout. Take time to ask your date questions about themselves and their views. Contribute in between information about yourself to show that you listened and you want your date to know about you too.

Punctuality

When you practise punctuality for your date, it shows that you care and respect the person. This is especially important when going on a first date. It shows your desire to meet the person and you are interested in them. If you think you are going to be late, always call your date and let them know that you will be late and the reason.

Dress and look appropriately

Take time to groom yourself, dress appropriately and look smart for your date. What you wear not only show your interests, it could also create a wrong impression. For example, a sexy, cleavage revealing dress on a first date could attract sexual interest. You could miss the chance of getting to know each other based on common interests and views. So not dress untidily as if you have been cleaning your car or you have just got up of bed.

Be attentive

Stay attentive to your date. Avoid looking at other people when your date is talking. Some people fidget a lot on a date, playing with table napkin or fiddling with their drinks. It is very distracting and shows your disrespect and disinterest for your date.

Avoid talking about your ex

Talking about your ex especially on a first date is a no go zone. Firstly, it could override your initial intention to know your date better and reduce the chance of knowing each other better. Furthermore when you talk about your ex, it could show that you still have emotional attachment to your ex. It could prejudice your chance of finding if your date is right for you.

Take care of your drinks

It is not a good idea to over indulge in alcoholic drinks. You could be a good drinker or you could become uncouth after a few drinks, having too many drinks on a date is not a good thing. Excessive drinking on a date not only gives the impression of an addictive personality, too much alcohol could hinder your judgement.

Be yourself

Do not lie or pretend to be somebody else. Some of us say things or behave in the way we like to be seen, which is often not our true self. How long can we carry on this pretend?   Isn’t better to be yourself and if the person love you, it will be for who you are and not you are trying to be.

Avoid political and religious topics

Political and religious topics should be avoided on the first date. The reason is we all have different views and we would not want to turn the first date into a debate or an argument. First date should be relaxed, fun and non confrontational. It’s not the time to push your beliefs and views on others. It is fine having different views but that could come on subsequent date when both of you become well acquainted.

Bad dating practices could prejudice you and make you seems disrespectful and disinterested. You could miss out on a chance to further a relationship with the right person.